Author Archives: Margaret Jean

Understanding Autism: Beyond the Spectrum



Consider autistic persons who have reached a high degree of recognition–I can quickly name a few in a variety of careers. For instance, there is John Elder Robison, author; Temple Grandin, Animal Activist and speaker/author; Elon Musk, Entrepreneur; Greta Thunberg, Environmental Activist; Susan Boyle, Songstress; and Anthony Hopkins, knighted actor. This diversity would seem to indicate that autism has many different facets–thus the term “autism spectrum”.

A recent article in the Washington Post, December 26, 2025, reports findings from recent studies[i] indicating evidence of at least four autism phenotypes, having both a specific set of behaviours and genetic traits as well as overlapping origins and characteristics.

This work leads to a greater understanding of the complexities and the range of autism’s many forms, suggesting that common variants found in the general population can “in certain combinations and under certain environmental conditions” result in the development of some forms of Autism at different stages of life.

It occurs to me that limiting autism to only four types is like reducing the colour spectrum to the primary colours: red, yellow and blue. And that makes me think of rainbows. 

Rainbows are caused by two everyday elements: sunlight and raindrops.  These elements are natural and we see them often.  However, when an individual ray of light enters a raindrop, the light bends or refracts. This separates the white light into its component colours inside the droplet.  But before exiting the raindrop, the light bends again, reflecting off the back of the droplet. This final bend or dispersion reveals a particular colour—one of the primary or secondary colours, or a shade thereof.

The findings in this study indicate that autism is somewhat similar in origins. Like a ray of sunlight entering a droplet of water, there are myriad environmental[i], industrial, medicinal, hereditary and prenatal influences. These can effect change in a person’s DNA, affecting the way we develop and subsequently, the way in which we interact with our environment.

A lead author of the subtype study, Natalie Sauerwald, is quoted as saying “There are many autisms.”

One of the studies reported, using an unrelated research team and different data found that genetically distinct forms of autism can be expressed later—after age six[ii]. These diagnoses appeared “strikingly different” from that diagnosed in early childhood. According to the article “…hundreds of genetic mutations have been identified as being linked to autism.” 

Only half appear to be inherited, the rest arise spontaneously, either from random copying errors in DNA or from external influences like air pollution, paternal age, maternal diabetes, and prenatal infections.  These types of autism appear later, and look more like depression, ADHD or PTSD.

The Washington Post article also mentions James McPartland[iii]’s research at Yale involving brain synapses of autistic adults.  Synapses are the vehicles for transporting messages from one nerve cell to another, allowing for the assimilation of more, and more varied information by the brain.  

It is important to note that McPartland, over years of study, found that adult autists had fewer synapses than neurotypicals, and the fewer the synapses, the greater the struggle with the social aspect of life.

Like water droplets in a rainbow, each of us reflects a combination of events and influences that make us unique. These may be a result of inherited DNA or of our body’s reaction to outside stimulu or events. The important thing to remember is that in our uniqueness, we bring special attributes into this world. Celebrate them!

Litman, A., Sauerwald, N., Snyder, L. G., Foss-Feig, J., Park, C. Y., Hao, Y., Dinstein, I., Theesfeld, C. L., & Troyanskaya, O. G. (2025). Decomposition of phenotypic heterogeneity in autism reveals underlying genetic programs. Nature Geneticshttps://doi.org/10.1038/s41588-025-02224-z

[i]  David Mandell, Professor of psychiatry, U of Pennsylvania.

[ii] Olga Troyanskaya, director of Princeton Precision Health and Co-Author of Flatiron Institute Study noted above.

[iii] James McParland, director of the Center for Brain and Mind Health at the Yale School of Medicine.

For more information on this study see;

https://www.brainfacts.org/diseases-and-disorders/childhood-disorders/2025/new-autism-subtypes-identified-based-on-genes-individual-traits-111125

https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2025/12/26/autism-research-diagnosis-subtypes/

https://www.princeton.edu/news/2025/07/09/major-autism-study-uncovers-biologically-distinct-subtypes-paving-way-precision

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How Systems Transform Goal Achievement for Neurodiverse Individuals

Perhaps you think that life on the Autism Spectrum has enough bumps without deliberately going about creating more. You’ve set a goal for yourself. What more do you need?

Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress.” – James Clear, Atomic Habits

How do systems enter into achieving goals? Let me tell you how they helped with my goal of regularly going to the gym.

I really wanted to make exercise a part of my daily routine, because as we age, fitness is freedom. So much depends on one’s mobility.

Yet I found that forming a new habit was just not that easy.

I am a morning person, but because I work, I had to get up really early if I wanted to get in an hour of exercising. And because I get up so early, by 5 pm I’m pretty much done for the day, so exercising after work was not going to happen.

In spite of my determination it soon became clear that I wasn’t doing so great.  Any excuse was enough to keep me from getting up out of my nice warm bed. Rain or even a bright sunny day was excuse enough to tell myself I’d just take a day off and make up for it later. 

And then there was putting together an outfit for gym. The right shoes, gym pants, and I am not a T-shirt girl, so what to wear that would be appropriate?

Getting ready felt tedious and prolonged.

I needed help if I was going to make the gym a regular part of my daily routine.

Then, I began listening to the audible version of James Clear’s Atomic Habits.

James Clear has a very interesting theory about success—and as a NY Times best selling author who has over a million followers, he clearly knows his subject.

Clear says it is not our goals that bring us success, but our systems.

Time and again in his book, Atomic Habits,  James Clear illustrates how developing systems can either lead you to or keep you from achieving your objectives.

And that was clearly my problem.  I didn’t have a system. 

So I set one up.  I organized all my gym clothes in a place where I could easily access them in the morning.

I developed a routine for getting spruced up. I made sure to keep everything I’d need in the same cupboard, so that I could just reach for items like my toothbrush and toothpaste, minimal make up, eye glasses cleaner, etc. in the morning when I was still waking up.

To give me an incentive (other than becoming fit), I decided to stop at the local Tim Horton’s to get myself a small coffee on the way to the gym.  No fancy, rich coffees, with added syrups and whipped cream, which could easily nullify the effect of the gym—just a small coffee to help me wake up on the drive.

Now, some years later, the gym is a regular feature of my life. Building the systems helped tremendously, and they are still in place today.

James Clear says that although people think building good habits is time-consuming and takes away from life, it actually does the opposite.  Good systems free up time.

Motivational speaker, Brene Brown tells us that having a daily routine reduces anxiety, which is a huge plus for spectrum riders. And structure adds purpose to your day. 

Having a regular routine for everyday chores, like paying the bills, preparing meals, and cleaning, gets things done in less time and with less anxiety.

Having a routine means you’re not spending a lot of time deciding how and when to take care of these small, everyday tasks. And routine can bring you success in the goals that are even more important to you.

So, if you have an area of your life you want to change, or a goal you’d like to achieve, think about the systems you can put in place that will make it easier for you to succeed.

And if you need a little help, I recommend James Clear’s highly readable book: Atomic Habits, or visit atomichabits.com.

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A Child Remembers

Hi mom,

When I think about how we used to go into the forest and pick wild strawberries, spotting deer and singing songs…you and Bev picked most of the berries,  Sue and I were not very focused…but you always picked enough for wild strawberry shortcake…I also remember how you played baseball with us and our friends and how you took all of us to the beach in that big old Pontiac wagon…and how we pushed that car to the gas station….those were the best times of my life!

Thanks for being such an awesome mom!

MERRY CHRISTMAS 

I received this message from my son this Christmas. If you read my previous blogs on my take on my parenting skills or lack thereof, you will know why this message means so much to me…

Often when we think we are failing because of our inability to ‘get’ what other parents/friends/families do, we actually manage.

Yours truly,

Margaret Jean.

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Understanding Autism: A Response to Kennedy’s Claims

A Statement from the BC Autism Support Network:

September 24, 2025
POSITION STATEMENT REGARDING AUTISM
& ROBERT F KENNEDY, JR


As a registered charity led by parents supporting other parents in accessing
science-based autism treatments, we feel compelled to join the growing chorus of
concern surrounding Robert F. Kennedy Jr.’s most recent unfounded and
misleading claims.

We echo the powerful statement by Dr. Mitch Prinstein of the American
Psychological Association, which deserves to be heard in full:

“Public health policy must be guided by rigorous research and scientific
consensus.


We are deeply troubled by the reckless promotion of
unsupported research that unjustifiably blames mothers and fuels
stigma against individuals with autism.


Research shows that autism has complex, multifactorial origins—genetic, biological, and
environmental—and represents a spectrum of neurodevelopmental
differences, not a single condition with a single cause.


We welcome new funding for autism research, but for this initiative to succeed, it must
amplify valid scientific findings and support evidence-based, neurodiversity-affirming practices that help autistic people thrive across their lifespan.”


As an organization grounded in lived experience and evidence-based advocacy, we
stand firmly against rhetoric that promotes stigma, misinformation, and outdated
narratives.

Autism is not caused by parental actions—it is amultifaceted
neurodevelopmental condition that deserves understanding, respect, and support
rooted in science.

We urge all public figures, particularly those seeking leadership roles, to engage
meaningfully with both autistic self-advocates and caregivers, and to prioritize
science, respect, and lived experience over stigma and misinformation.

Respectfully Yours,
Jennifer Newby
Executive DirectorWe recognize how distressing this is for our community. 

As always, our support group meetings for caregivers are completely free. 

Please join us. 
 Upcoming Events

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Canadian Gov’t Dental Plan Renewal Simplified

“Can you help me?” my friend emailed. “I’m trying to renew my dental plan.”

She was frustrated. Not terribly well organized when it comes to official business, Marie had panicked at the request for a password and the warning that information from her latest notice of assessment from the Revenue Canada (Income Tax) Agency would be requested in the process.

“It’s so complicated, and I can’t find my password. Or my Notice of Assessment.” I could just hear my friend in Quebec sighing heavily as she typed this message.

For people whose family income is $70,000 or less, the plan will cover the cost of dental care according to plan-specified rates. Your dentist may charge more, in which case, you have to make up the difference.

Still, in the last year, under the auspices of the Canadian Dental Care Plan, Marie had saved over a thousand dollars on her dental work. And even though my dentist’s receptionist had told me the government plan wouldn’t cover much, I also saved nearly a thousand dollars on my dental bill. So renewal was important for both of us.

Especially since Marie was having ongoing work done on her teeth.

Since I had to renew my coverage also, I went to the site to see exactly what was needed.

I saw her dilemma. It looked like a My Services Canada account was the key to renewal. I had never had such an account so I couldn’t help her with that. My one attempt to open such an account (years ago) had frustrated me to the point that I had given up.

Meanwhile, I also had to renew my application for the dental plan, so I looked for another solution, one both Marie and I could navigate. We had to apply by June 1st so our coverage would continue after June 30th when the prior year’s coverage expired.

Annual renewal is important. The plan is income dependant so you have to file a tax return to qualify.

Even if you have no income, it’s important to file a tax return (a nil return). You will get other benefits as well-such as the GST quarterly cheque. You can file your tax return for free through your bank or through a CRA My Account. But more on that later.

If you are Canadian and you are enrolled in the dental plan, you still qualify, and you haven’t renewed yet, it is important to do so right away.

I googled Canadian Dental Plan Renewal. This took me to a page with an obvious green button that said Renew Your Coverage. Renew online. “This renewal tool is fast and easy.”

Renew your coverage

Hmmm. Disregarding everything that came before and after, I clicked on the button. And here’s what i learned:

To renew your Canadian Dental Plan First get out your dental plan Care card.  Go to this website:

https://www.canada.ca/en/services/benefits/dental/dental-care-plan/renew.html#h2.3

  1. You will see this green button/box in a long list of items. 
  2. Disregard everything else.
  3. Click on the Green box that says “Renew your coverage”.

Follow the instructions.

You will need your dental plan or client number, which is the member ID number on your Canadian Dental Care Plan Card. It is 11 digits long, all numbers. It is also the number on the top right hand corner of your renewal reminder from Service Canada.

Your name must be exactly as on the Dental Care Card.  For instance, for first name, I had to put “Margaret J.” because on my Dental Care Card, I have Margaret J. Adam. When I tried it with “Margaret” for first name,  and “Adam” for last, I got an error message.

You should find the rest quite easy—they just ask if you want to give a phone number or email, or if you have any other federal or provincial or other dental plan coverage.  It seems they already have the Notice of Assessment (income) information from Revenue Canada.

That’s pretty much it. My friend found this process simple and stress-free. If you haven’t renewed your dental plan do so. It will save you money at the dentist! And allow you to get a check up and a cleaning and some minor work done.

This is a small part of caring for yourself, my dear friends.

Margaret Jean.

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Growing up with my Children: an autist’s perspective on parenting

I had a great time growing up with my kids.

We played ball.  We climbed trees. We went berry picking and came home and made cakes oozing with fruit. We walked, checking out the neighbourhoods, the streets and fields around where we lived.

We learned to do cartwheels together on the front lawn, near the old Gravenstein apple tree.

We would sometimes all load up in the little Cortina and go to the beach or the park.

For a time, we lived in a park, a forty-six acre nature park while their dad was a park caretaker.

The kids had dogs and the park had two streams running through it and a swimming hole.  There were swings and slides and a baseball diamond, creeks and bridges.

There were huge trees in the park, cedars and beeches and firs, and all kinds of exotics that the original owner had planted.

My children would run and play with their dogs, with their friends.

They went off to Navy Cadets every week.  Even my son pressed his own uniform pants.  He said I didn’t do it right!  They polished their shoes and kept themselves well turned out for the event.

If there was a quarrel or a fight between them, I would make them face each other and with me in the middle, they would each get a turn to tell their version of what happened, no interruptions. 

Then we would decide what had to happen from there: an apology (usually mutual) or sharing, or whatever the situation called for.  There were consequences, mutually decided, sometimes grudgingly agreed to. But the children knew it was fair and right.

What I got from my childhood, my daughter once said to me, is a sense of justice.

My children still remember how beautiful the park was when all the fruit trees blossomed in the spring. And the wonderful harvests in the fall.

Yes, life was not always idyllic.  In fact, far from it sometimes.  But these memories are what we hold on to…

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Free: Autism Parenting Summit May 16-19

An online summit with guest speaker Dr. Temple Grandin. 

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Autism and Family Dynamics

Growing up in a family divided into two camps was very difficult for her.

My daughter Suzanne, our dear friend, Mary Anne

I’m a tax preparer. Some would say an apt profession for a person on the autism spectrum.  Working alone, dealing with numbers and calculations, facts and figures.  A skill that requires tremendous concentration and an ability to survey the financial landscape; see the complexities that lie within it.

My daughter, Sue, owns the firm.  She has been keeping books and doing taxes since her late teens. Some of the customers have been loyal to her for more than thirty years.

She is a great boss.  Firm but kind.  She is not autistic.  She has millions of friends (or so it seems) and is very social.

Growing up in a family divided into two camps (autistic and not), was very difficult for her. 

For all of us.  We each have our scars.  My emotional immaturity did not help.  I was very young when I birthed my three children. That’s the reality, not an excuse.

I was very young…

I ‘m wearing the dark shirt. My cousin is with me and my children.

As an aging autist, I look back on my early years, my children’s formative years, and I wince.  However much I loved them, and I did love them unequivocally, I know my child rearing was not any where near ideal.

I didn’t know how to play, how to have fun, how to make sure they had the emotional and physical supports that they needed. 

All I could do was love them in my own way.  Certainly not nearly enough to give them a solid start in life.

And yet, today, all three children have their own homes, are gainfully employed, have friends and family close to them.

I am on good terms with all of my children.  When we talk, it is with respect and love.

I speak with my employer/daughter every day, and the love she has for me comes through clearly, even if those conversations are mostly business.

We all survived.  We are well.  And I am so grateful, because I know I do not deserve this beautiful outcome. 

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Autism and Life Beyond the Herd

This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man*. 

You may often hear or read this quote: the epitome of self-awareness. As someone on the Autism Spectrum, it registers with me. It must be so for many people now and also throughout the ages since Shakespeare’s time, because it is often quoted.

And yet, it is commonly known that humans are born with the herd instinct.

For instance, in Chapter nine of Atomic Habits, James clear states that the human brain is programmed with the desire to be like everybody else. 

This need originates in a protective instinct which triggers the drive to be included–The aptly named ‘herd instinct’. To belong, to imitate the successful integrative and admired behaviours of others, to go along with behaviours we might secretly deplore, stems from our earliest prehistory.

As cave dwellers, and tribesmen, living within the group we were protected, we could benefit from shared resources.  On our own, alone, banished, or ostracized, we became easy targets for wild animals, other tribes, disease and injury. Vulnerable.  Miserable. Usually prey. Ultimately dead.

Safety was an overwhelming issue. As for procreation, the presence of at least one other person was required. Then there’s the bonus of shared resources as well as shared responsibilities. Going along with the prevailing group meant not only survival but a more desirable quality of life.

Theoretically our habits and behaviours are influenced by the culture in which we are born, raised and which we enter into as adults. 

Scientifically we are told that our brains are programmed to want to be aligned with the position assumed by the majority, and the powerful.

Research has proven time and again that being smart, being right, being true to yourself is less important than aligning oneself with the prevailing opinion.  This is ingrained in our being. Man is mentally programmed to respond in this manner.

I realized as I read this that, surprisingly, I had never wanted to be like everyone else.  In my memoir “Unforgiving” I explained that while my teenaged peers wanted to be different, they only really wanted to be different from their parents–not from each other. As for me:

I wanted to be the one and only Margaret Jean on the planet, and I wanted to be indelibly stamped as that single original sample of humanity whose Margaret Jean-ness would permeate every cell of her body and shine through everything she did.

That led me to think about other autistic people, in my family and in my friendships and acquaintances. Many of them have expressed the same feeling: Yes, we want to be accepted.  Yes, we want to be understood.  And no, we do not want to be like everybody else.

We value our uniqueness, the different way we perceive situations and people. Our evaluation of events and information. For instance, what if Temple Grandin had given in to everyone else’s concept of the behaviour of cattle, ignoring her insights as to their behaviours?  What if she had not had the courage to pursue the possibility of uniqueness in her brain?

We shouldn’t feel apologetic for being autistic.  It is how we were born, who we are.

I may misunderstand some social situations, but I may also have a deeper understanding of some.  I may be more intent on social justice than I am on fitting in. Is that really a bad thing? 

Our friends and family want to draw us into the herd for our own protection.  For our own social welfare.  For our own social ease. Admirably, they are thinking of our own good.

But is it what we want? Do we seek permission to be who we intrinsically are?  Do we need it? Those few who make it—how do they do it? By accepting themselves…By being true to who they are.

*Hamlet, act I, scene iii, lines 78–80.

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Autism: Criticism and Self Doubt

Inez Garcia 1974

Growing up on the Autism spectrum, being constantly criticized for my behaviour, often justifiably so, created tremendous self-doubt.

This criticism made it easy for people to convince me that behaviour that I felt was entirely appropriate was in fact, unacceptable.

Lately, I’ve read James Clear’s Atomic Habits, in which he states that a habit he has ingrained is that he has to write every day.  He only has to write one line, but the habit he’s ingrained is, he has to write every day.  That, he says, is how he became a writer.

I was born a writer.

In my early teens I wrote poetry, the words flowing from an inner source that moved my pen across the page.  I could easily express emotion and lead my audience to exactly where I wanted to take them. 

People listened attentively and responded with enthusiasm.  For me, it was as natural as breathing.

Then I bound myself into a relationship with a much older man.  A well-educated man who had studied the classics and philosophy. A man raised in an atmosphere of Emily Post’s Blue Book of Etiquette. A man who denigrated my writing.

One day, in a passionate sense of injustice I wrote poetically about an incident that I heard about in the news. 

The news article featured a woman of strong character–Inez Garcia. A woman who was raped. Two men assaulted her, one of whom weighed over three hundred pounds.  He held her down, while the other man raped her.  When they were done, they let her go.  Threats against her life were uttered.  Incensed and traumatized, she went home. She grabbed her son’s gun. She hunted one man down. Shot and killed him. The other man fled. 

I wrote the ballad in her defense when she was arrested and charged with first degree murder.

My husband was shocked. It was 1974 and the very thought that I would dare to write about rape–a forbidden subject—offended him.  That I could even consider defending the woman he found despicable.  The thought of me submitting the ballad to any publication appalled him.  He told me to burn it.

At the time, Women’s Rights and the Chicano Movement were gaining ground in the San Francisco Bay area.  When news of Garcia’s plight became known, feminists took up her cause, and Garcia herself became a speaker addressing women’s groups.

According to Wikipedia, I was not the only woman to take up the pen in Garcia’s defense.

As a cause celebre, her (Inez Garcia’s) case inspired numerous works of art and music, including the Beverly Grant folk song “Inez”, performed with the group The Human Condition; Marge Piercy’s poem “For Inez Garcia”;[5] and Jayne Cortez’s poem “Rape.”[6]

These women became noted for their work in Garcia’s defense and went on to become well published writers.

As for me, I didn’t burn my ballad, but I did essentially fold up my writing persona and immerse myself in motherhood and housekeeping.

That I gave up writing at that point in my life was not my husband’s fault.  It was entirely mine, for giving his opinion so much weight, and my own so little recognition.

Years later and in a more progressive relationship, I entered a university undergraduate program where I studied literature, including contemporary poetry. Writing that I found surprisingly reminiscent of my early work. 

And by degrees I learned to trust myself to write again, encouraged by professors who recognized my latent talent and helped me publish.

But the process is not the same. It’s a constant battle to put my writing first, to allow myself to sit down and open that channel. 

This is my continued fascination with Atomic Habits:  sooner or later the habit of sitting down to write will be ingrained, and I will once again, see myself as a writer.

If you are having self-doubts, if you feel that what you believe is worthwhile is being negated by everyone around you, don’t give up and please, don’t give in. 

Trust yourself, and find your place in this world.  It’s waiting for you.

Inez Garcia was retried and exonerated after serving two years in prison.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inez_Garc%C3%ADa  Research data’

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