Apparently many people have issues with relaxation. This week’s post is a reblog from a writer who goes by the moniker “Neurodivergent Rebel”:
TO EVERYONE WHO “CAN’T MEDITATE”
Mindfulness and meditation have been a big part of my life for several years now. I’m always happy to share with people how helpful meditation is for me.
Unfortunately almost everyone I talk to about meditation “can’t meditate”.
“I wish I could meditate. My mind isn’t made for that!” or “I can’t stand being still”, a few of the most common excuses why people tell me they “can’t meditate”.
People assume meditation was always easy for me, while in reality, nothing could be further from the truth.
I started meditation because of a deep internal need for change.
My twenty-fifth birthday was coming at me like an out of control locomotive with a sleeping driver. The number made me uneasy and it was coming too fast. Like a doe, hypnotized by the headlights, I felt helpless to stop it.
Something was wrong, missing, empty and completely inexpressible. I’d been searching my entire life for something. . . peace, stillness, answers, meaning maybe?
In my mid to early twenties, I was very out of touch with my own feelings and emotions.
At first, my meditations were distracted, plagued with racing, unwanted, thoughts. When the goal was to count to five without allowing your mind to wander off, sometimes I only got to two or three before starting over, and over, and over.
It was hard, but as I kept on it things got easier.
Finally, with Buddhism, I was beginning to unlock the tools needed to understand and shape my own mind. Somedays progress crawled along at what felt like a snail’s pace, but every week as I continued to practice it got easier.
As I’ve grown older and incorporated mindfulness into my life over the years, things have greatly improved. I still meditate every day but the way I meditate has changed.
I meditate all the time. At times I may meditate for only a few minutes or seconds, whenever I need to calm and relax my mind, think more clearly, or gather the words for an important conversation.
Meditation has become the tool that I use to recalibrate my brain. Sitting tall I close my eyes and bow my head as I take in a deep, slow breath. As I breathe in I focus on the feelings of my feet on the ground or my butt in a chair (depending on where I am).
As my lungs expand I shift my focus to the feelings of my breath. With eyes closed, I listen and feel, asking myself – “what’s happening now?” Depending on available time I may stay for a while, eyes closed, nose pointed at the floor.
This micro-meditations can be as quick as a few breaths. I’ve even learned to meditate with my eyes open, although I wonder if I have a blank stare when I do this.
I take the time that I need and if I get flustered I remind myself not to rush, gently whispering in my own ear “relax, stay in the present”.
Every day I am needing to remind myself less and less, thanks to a very conscious choice I made years ago to change my life.
Dear people who “can’t meditate” – keep trying.
For more great posts from Neurodivergent Rebel go to: https://neurodivergentrebel.com/
Hope this helps!