I introduced author John Elder Robison and his son, Jack, both Aspies, to you in the last post.
In the same Pyschology Today April 13th article, I found John’s observations of his son’s difficulties with office etiquette very typical of Aspies in the work place.
In the article, Robison explains that he became aware that his son seemed oblivious to his co-workers. He’d get so immersed in his work that his co-workers felt he was ignoring and avoiding them.
He did not engage in office chit-chat or small talk, and he was unable to recognize when this behaviour was having a negative effect on others.
We’ve all been there! We go to work to work, right?? Not socialize! Ah, but then there’s the rest of the world.
People like to be acknowledged. We sometimes get so focused, we fail to see that. And even then, we may feel we are much too busy to do anything about it.
Give in, Aspies! Acknowledging others through a brief comment or compliment is just a necessary feature of being part of the human race.
And getting back to our previous topic of small talk? Office lunch rooms are the perfect setting for exercising your small talk entries.
Note that you should not participate in any disparaging talk about other workers or your superiors.
But safe zone topics? Like recent outings, current events, the weather, the traffic–they’ll keep you in the loop.